The Dragon’s Are Singing

“If you don’t believe in dragons,
It is curiously true
That the dragons you disparage
Choose to not believe in you.”
– Jack Prelutsky

This past month Owen and I got the pleasure to attend our first play together. Since it was all about dragons I knew that Owen would love it… more importantly… I figured that it would “probably” hold his attention and he would stay seated the whole time.  Secretly… it was the perfect opportunity for me to test my sons patience.

So… we got dressed up (a rarity in our house)… headed downtown… and took our seats.

Ever since Owen was old enough to talk… he has loved dragons.

I am not sure if it’s their scaly skin… their mysteries eyes… their ability to fly… or their scary facade.

But… when he is not watching dragon movies…  (“How to Train Your Dragon” or “Dragon Hunter’s”)

we are crawling around on all fours…

breathing fire…

hatching beautiful eggs…

and flying off the couches… yes that is right I said “flying” off my couches.

While jumping off of my furniture can get a little old… I love encouraging Owen’s imagination and playing pretend. When we are not pretending to be in a mythical pack… we are using our hands and doing arts and crafts.

Seeing as I was raised by an artist, I have always thought that creativity is such an important piece in a child’s development.

I love watching Owen’s face light up when he tells stories and makes up tales.

I love watching his pudgy little hands bend… fold… and glue feathers to paper.

I love seeing his brain in action when he pauses for a moment… looks off into space… and says “and then…”

Most of all…

I love being a part of it all.

I love believing that there is magic out there…

“Once they all believed in dragons
When the world was fresh and young.
We were woven into legends,
Tales were told and songs were sung,
We were treated with obeisance,
We were honored, we were feared,
Then one day they stopped believing –
On that day, we disappeared.

Now they say our time is over,
now they say we’ve lived our last,
Now we’re treated with derision
Where we once ruled unsurpassed.
We must make them all remember,
In some way we must reveal
That our spirit lives forever –
We are dragons! We are real!”

– Jack Prelutsky

Owen remained seated throughout the play… and aside from his loud banter and pretend screams in terror… he did very well and loved every minute of it.

We actually enjoyed the dragon play so much that we decided to make dragons for our arts and crafts projects later on in the week with Kyle (Bryan and I’s old college roommate) while he was in town.

We threw all of our materials out on the kitchen table and dug in.

We had a lot of fun making our dragons… and in no time Owen was running around the house snarling and flying like a dragon.

Relax and Breathe

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”   – Leo Buscaglia

This past month has been filled with lots of ups and downs. Something that Owen and I have become very used to.

Since this winter has been so warm, Owen and I have been plagued with various colds and flu’s… which has caused us to be crabby, irritable and very lazy. We have spent most of February cooped up at home…watching movies… and taking naps.

Oddly enough, through it all… I came to the self-realization that I still have some PTSD surrounding Bryan’s death and that I have an intense protection shield over Owen.

Whenever Owen gets sick or is not acting like himself (by this I mean bouncing on the furniture and running around like a crazed monkey) I automatically start internally freaking out and thinking that I am going to lose him too… then the waterworks start to come.

This past month when he had a high fever and was lethargic I went into my crazy mom zone again and started panicking. I called my parents and my in-laws… I cried uncontrollably… and I held/rocked Owen like he was a tiny baby all over again.

And then it happened… my perfect… beautiful… wise… sick… little boy looked up at me with his glossy half shut eyes… put his clammy hands on my face… and said…

“Stop crying mommy. I am alright”

In that moment I realized that the person I should be taking care of  was taking care of me. My two-year-old son.

Owen and I have a special bond… a bond that not many people can say that they have with their children. We take care of each other.We are each others “person”.

While most days I have a hard time playing the good guy and the bad guy… he knows that I am his boss and as he told me the other day…

“mom… you are my best friend.”

While our lives might seem chaotic and unorganized… because trust me, most days they are… we have a unique relationship. One that transcends everything else in this crazy world. We love… we play… we understand.. and we respect one another.

In many ways…

Owen is my best friend too!
So.. today… in between eating and snuggling we pretended that we were on a beach and played in the “sand”….